A men’s guide to the spa
Go to the spa. Bring your friends.
A plain-English guide for men. What to expect, what to pack, how to act, and how to make it a day you’ll want to repeat.
Towel only, wherever the spa allows it. Highly recommended.
First time?
Your first spa day, in order
Decide it’s for you
Spas aren’t just for the ladies. Here’s the honest case for going.
Pick the right place
Six things to ask before you book, including the one about clothing.
Pack and dress
A short list for the bag, and the towel-or-trunks question.
Do the day
Arrive early, follow the circuit, and listen to your body.
Better together
The best part is who you go with.
Hot rooms, no phones, and a few hours with nowhere to be. It’s where the good conversations happen. Bring a buddy, and bring a question or two.
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Quick answers
The questions guys actually ask
Is it weird to be naked at the spa?
Not at a clothing-optional spa. Everyone is there to relax, and nobody is paying attention to you. Towel on, drop it when you are ready, and let your own comfort set the pace. Rules differ by spa and by area, so check before you go.
Can I use my phone at the spa?
Not in the spa areas. Most spas have strict phone rules, and devices that can record are off limits, especially where clothing is optional. If you need to take a call, step outside the spa area.
How much does a spa day cost?
There are three common ways in: book a treatment (a massage often runs about $150 to $325, plus gratuity, as of early 2024), buy a day pass, or ask about hotel guest access. Ask the spa for current prices.
How long do I stay in each room?
My rule of thumb is about 15 to 20 minutes in the hot tub and about 15 in the steam room and the sauna, with something cold between every hot step: a plunge if there is one, a cold shower if not. Listen to your body, and step out if you feel overheated or unwell. If you have a heart or blood-pressure condition, are pregnant, or take medication that affects either, check with your doctor first.
Does every spa have a cold plunge?
No. Cold plunges are uncommon. Most spas have showers instead, and a cold shower does the same job between hot rooms. If a plunge matters to you, ask before you book.
Should I go alone or with friends?
Either works. With a friend you get the conversation, someone to watch your stuff, and a reason to put the phones down. On your own, bring a book.
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